Letting go…

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My last post was about how to raise a Mallard duck. Now I am going to write about how she took flight and became independent. I will be able to dispel the myth that surrounds taking care of wildlife, in that they become dependent on you for life and lose their wild instincts. And I will show how one of the most beautiful things you can do for a wounded animal, is to rehabilitate it and return it to the wild. I was so lucky to have this experience, even if I didn’t know it at the time.

You see, Georgie was a different duck, a very special Mallard who wanted to survive against all odds. And she did. I raised her from a chick that was a few days old, into a beautiful healthy bird. I thought that she would be with me for life, as I tried to let her go a couple times, and she would come back. People would even tell me it’s because I needed to leave her somewhere at a lake where she would just learn to adjust. I could never imagine just dumping her like that, and there are laws to protect Mallards from people who do such things. But Georgie knew when it was time for her to leave, and that day was October 11th 2023.

We had gone for a walk around the very lake where I was given her. She foraged there almost everyday when she was younger, but as she grew older, I knew one day all the training I gave her would come in when she needed it the most, because at heart, she was still wild. She had many opportunities before, but on this day the 11th of October, she sat up and looked out of the window from her carrier, and it was an unmistakable knowing. It gave me goosebumps to see her remember this place, at exactly this day and time. It made no sense to me. After all it was raining, why on this day did she decide she wanted to leave? Why leave a warm home with a steady flow of the best food? But I asked her, ” Is it time baby?” “I can let you go if you want to go”. “I won’t keep you. if this is where you belong.” It was hard and yet I felt at peace about it at the same time. I go to the lake everyday anyway. But what if I never saw her again? I had to just accept that my job was done and that I brought her to her destiny to raise the next generation.

I rolled down the window in the car. She didn’t move, as if she was contemplating her decision. It was like she was thinking the same thing as me. I drove slowly by the the lake and stopped. Then with the utmost of grace, she flew high up over the lake with her whistle in the air from her wings. I was so proud. I left the lake went home and did some work and thought… well maybe I should check in with her this afternoon in case she changed her mind? But when I came back in the afternoon, I was amazed by what I saw.

The sun had come out by this time and there was even a rainbow. It turned into the perfect day afterall. And as I looked out over the beautiful glistening lake, there were hundreds of mallards swimming about. It was like a class reunion, and Georgie knew the time and date. It was one of the few times in my life where I was so happy because I allowed myself to be guided by something I couldn’t explain, because I had the courage to just let go. I sure wish I could do that more often. I called for Georgie, and she came swimming across the water quacking, like she was my child I was picking up from swim lessons. But this time she didn’t come alone. She had already found a mate, or at least he was hoping she would pick him, because he was following her every move. He did end up staying with her, so we named him Harold. She got out of the water and stood by me, tilting her head like usual and listening to me asking her if she was having a good time. Georgie had unmistakable markings on her bill when she grew older that made her very identifiable.

I could rest easy now, because I now know that everything I read about Mallards being raised by humans, and being imprinted on and every other bull crap story that said you couldn’t release a wild Mallard raised in captivity was a myth. My Mallard hung out with my dog. She slept on the bed with us, ate dinner at the same time, swam in the bathtub, and had stayed with us in the camper all summer, but at the end of the day she was still wild! Mallards are very instinctual birds and there is nothing you can do to take that away from them. They can love you with all their heart, but they will still leave to forge their own path. I taught her to swim, to dive, to forage and to fly. And she has done well. She grew up to be a part of the dwindling mallard population, that is down by 23% according to the study done for fish and wildlife by the Waterfowl Survey and 36% were estimated by conservation government groups for the 1st time in history. At least now she will go on to have babies of her own that she will teach. And that is really incredible when you think that a Mallard has less than a 10% chance of survival until it reaches flight status, and then only a 50% chance of living out their first year into adulthood. Given statistics like that, you can see why the numbers are declining.

Still, I wanted to make sure she makes it to adulthood. So I come by to feed her everyday. She leads the flock over to get her duck pellets and cracked corn, and there are now 4 of us that have fed the 300 ducks that come to the lake. I am not the only one! I have found other friends who have done exactly what I have done, and together we have been hoping to get them to the breeding season at Summer lake unharmed. Most people thank us, but some very negative people stop and tell us we are harming the ducks by feeding them and that they will grow dependent. I just tell them not to believe everything you read.

until next time…

~L

How to raise a mallard duck, or not…

It’s been a long time since I have written anything because life has definitely thrown me a curve ball. I was given a mallard duckling on Memorial day weekend unexpectedly by a woman at the lake who found it. Long story short, a little girl picked the duckling up and then her mother told her to let it go. By this time the duck was very far from the mother and tried to swim but could not and started drowning. Ducks that are just born do not have the oils built up on their feathers to stay dry, and so they easily soak through and die of hypothermia. So, I was asked if I could take it. Well… I was thinking I would just take it to the Audubon society the next day, seeing as it was a holiday. But to my surprise there was a big banner in bold print on the website that said, “Due to avian flu, we are not accepting abandoned mallards.” Unbelievable!

I tried sanctuaries but they only take domestic birds not wild birds, and fish and wildlife would release it for shooting in the fall, so rather than little Georgie ending up on someone thanksgiving dinner table, I took her in. Anyone reading this post remember to never ever pick up a duckling unless you are absolutely sure it is abandoned. Because they bond with you instantly and you will be stuck for life as is my unexpected surprise. My goal was to rehabilitate her and send her back out once she got her flight status. But it never happened. As I sit around the campfire with my friends, they are telling me I should write this story.

What really happened was this… I trained a duck for the wild that became dependent on me. And I had an incredible bond that I was not sure even existed until I tried to part with her. Whenever a mallard duck comes into your life, consider it a blessing because your life is about to change for the better. Ducks are very happy, and they can bring a lot of joy. They teach you about family, and commitment. They require an extreme amount of attention, so if you are in for the long haul, I will tell you how I raised this beautiful creature. But if you don’t see a life of taking your feathered friend everywhere you go, or cleaning up after their messes, then its best to let nature take its course.

1st. You must keep the duckling warm. I think this was how she survived with me because I am told that most ducklings don’t survive the night. In fact, without a mother, there is only a 10% chance of survival. I had raised one in my younger days, so I know that this is true, because its siblings had died overnight the day we found them. I not only kept this duck warm, I let her sleep with me in a towel to feel my breathing. It was hard at 1st being a newborn mom at 60, but I was determined she wouldn’t die on my watch.

2nd. It won’t seem like they are hungry at 1st because they are so little, but that will change rapidly within days, and you won’t believe how much they will eat! I used a plastic lid with grooves in it off of a storage container, so it made a mini trough. Ducklings need a lot of water and so do adult ducks, so you must start this right away or they will choke on their food. Feed them oats and peas or lettuce and then move on to a non-medicated starter crumble. Purina makes one, and it worked great.

3rd. It is a myth that they should not be allowed to swim before 4 weeks. I taught her right away, and she loved it! Just make sure the water is warm not cold, and thoroughly dry the bird by a heat source like a space heater. They will instinctively preen themselves and distribute oil to their feathers. I would throw some food in the water and teach her to dive also.

4. Buy some plants like wheat grass or marigolds and let them go at it. Ducklings are busy bodies and will get into everything when they are bored. They need to learn to forage and when you have a bond like we have, you can let your duck follow you around the park foraging on its own. They love to eat flowers, dandelions, grass, weeds, bugs, you name it. Just be sure to bring a carrier and a towel to catch the duck if it won’t come back to you.

5. At about 5 -6 weeks you can get them a bigger pool and they will love you for it. You will be shocked how fast they grow, and you can see changes over night! Let them eat as much as they want. You should also know that they will start molting soon, and this will bring in their flight feathers. they will test them out and even levitate off the ground until about the 8th week, when they just take off like mine did. I felt so proud of her.

6. Be prepared to let go if you have to, but if they don’t want to, don’t leave them. As independent as my duck is, she still quacks very loudly if she doesn’t see me in the room. I tried taking her to a nice farm, the people were so friendly, and she had other ducks to play with, but I felt terrible and went back to get her. I always thought it would be better to give her the freedom to decide on her own, so I took her to the lake on my 2nd attempt. She flew around and then swam across the lake and greeted me to go home on the other side. Having failed again, I tried one last time and took her to another lake where I left her overnight. When I came the next day, she had feathers plucked out and she seemed sad. She waddled over and put her head on my shoulder as I was laying on the grass with her. I absolutely melted and swore I wouldn’t give her up again. And I haven’t. And because of this, I have changed my entire life, and I am moving to a farm to give her a protected life. That will be my next story, as I said this has been a blessing and somewhat of a curse. Mallard ducks can live up to 20 years in captivity, and I am already 60. But I made a vow to love her and keep her safe. And so here we are.

Olivia Newton John. A little More Love.

A shining star has died. We will always remember Livvy as a forever young and beautiful Xanadu spirit, who filled the lives of many with her soulful voice. Olivia was my 1st voice teacher. When I was a young girl, my parents often left me alone to go out to eat, and I would crank up the radio and sing “Hopelessly Devoted to You.” I was planning on singing it for my high school talent show. But good thing I didn’t because the performer before me sang ” I honestly Love You” Olivia’s biggest hit.

This really got me to thinking about death again as Olivia was my idol when I was younger, and her death left a profound sadness that I had not experienced when other celebrities have died with the exception Of John Lennon. I wore black that day in 1981 to school to mourn his death.

I wondered if it was normal to feel so bad about this, after all I didn’t know her. But her life ran so parallel to mine. We both were singers and vegetarians, we both loved salads more than anything. We both use alternative medicine. I opened a health store, she a wellness center. We were both Libra’s for crying out loud. We were similar in so many ways.

I ordered her “Gold” album which basically has every hit she ever made on it. I was sad listening to the music and made a major realization. That death is inevitable, and I can’t hold onto anything but memories. Which means I had to really let my childhood go. All of it. I have been stuck in the 70’s for a long time. You should see the inside of my vintage trailer, I have not been able to embrace the millennium.

Getting older means going with the flow of change even if we don’t like it. I can’t tell the world to stop evolving. And if you are young and reading this it will not affect you. But if you grew up in the baby boomer generation like I did, you will completely understand what I am feeling.

So what can we do to bring a little more love into the world like Olivia did? Well…I don’t have an answer for that except for appreciating the present moment for all it has. The pandemics, the overpopulation, inflation, and all the ugliness has happened before. And it happened in the 70’s! Yep, we are in an exact replication of what has happened before. And then came the 80’s and that was really fun too. Life did get better. So I am holding out hope that if I can flow with these changes the world is going through, that I will see a better world in the future. And if you need a little more love, listen to Olivia Newton John songs to lift you up. She was a humanitarian and light giver to so many. Any sadness will be understandable, but soon you will be dancing and singing along with her again.

Until next time, light and love to you…

L

Wake up your heart…

“Everything is made up of love. We are born through love, we create through love, and we feel pain because of love. Love is the essence of life itself and without love there would be no living soul.” I wrote this about 20 years ago and I may not have it exactly right, but I always remember the love on Valentine’s day even when things aren’t perfect. When I was a little girl, I remember carrying my cardboard pocket full of valentines and candy home with me when I got the chicken pox. In 2016 I lost my foreign exchange student on Valentines day. She was like a daughter to me. But she had to return to Japan and we are still very close. In 2019 I got Shingles on Valentines day. Talk about a hunk a hunk of burning love. Followed by three broken ribs and pneumonia the following Valentines day. In 2021, I had a perfect year with flowers, candy, the beach. Pure bliss. This year my dog got an upper respiratory infection and is now on antibiotics. It is still very hard to get in to see a vet during the pandemic and as he lay gasping for air, I had to make a decision from love. So I am giving him some antibiotics that I never used, but in a much smaller dose. In fact, my dentist who loves me had to give me antibiotics too when I had Pneumonia in the height of Covid in 2020, because the doctors thought I had Covid and did not want me to come in the hospital. Remember when they did that? Maybe they didn’t make those rules where you live, but they did here. That was back when people were dying at home. That was not love, that was fear. You may wonder why I am telling you all of this? Well… because in my 58 years, I have come across a lot of people who feel unloved. So I feel it is my duty to set you straight. And being the kind of solitary person that I am isn’t easy for relationships either. But yet I feel loved. Always. Love surrounds me every day and it surrounds you too even when things aren’t going your way. When you believe in love miracles occur. I believed my dog would get better and I acted from love not fear and so he is. I believed I would be healed from Pneumonia and shingles and I was. I believed my business would come back after losing over half of it and it has tripled. Which is why I haven’t been here by the way. You have to believe in love, because if you don’t then that is the end of life. Really think about it. If you feel that someone else completes you, or that unless you have everything you want right now or you can’t be happy, then that is not believing in love. You have to be open to allow love in. You can’t think that Valentines day is about having someone to love although that is wonderful I know. You are loved just for being here. Just because of your humaneness and there is nothing you have to do to prove yourself to receive love. You are perfect just the way you are, to quote Ed Sheeran. So if you are having a less than perfect Valentine’s day, or can’t wait for it to get over, Go make your fine self a cup of hot chocolate with whip cream, curl up and binge watch those shows that make you laugh or start writing in a journal. Do whatever celebrates you on this holiest day of love and remind yourself that you are loved, by at least one person, yourself. From there all things are possible.

with Love, Lisa

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